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On their own, affairs are hot.

But, there are things that you can do to make your affair extra hot and sexy.

Tip #1: Become someone else

This is your ultimate chance to become the person you’ve always fantasized about being. Let that dominating tone that you’ve been hiding roar. Or, take a submissive step back and let your partner have the lead.

You could go as far as to use a different name, and create an entirely fictional story about yourself, where you’re from, what you do and who you are.

The point is to let you ambitions loose and become who you’ve always wanted to be.

Tip #2: Learn a new bedroom trick

If you’re like most married people, you probably use the same old routine and the same old bag of tricks in bed. Use your affair to learn something different.

The body and the mind both love to experience new adventures – especially when it comes to sex. So, read a book, watch a video or grab the latest women’s magazine. Find something that you’re comfortable trying and practice it with your partner.

Be careful when trying it out with your spouse. He/she will probably want to know “where’d you learn this new trick?” So be ready with an answer and a reason why you decided to learn something new.

Tip #3: Do something that normally makes you uncomfortable

Again, your body and mind love trying new things. Maybe you’ve been afraid to try a new position, nervous about using toys, worried you might say the wrong thing if you use dirty talk or even terrified of what could happen if you were naked with the lights on.

Step out of your comfort zone in your affair. You’ve already “stepped over the line” by entering into the affair, erase your other boundaries and enjoy yourself.

Get Out There and Steam it Up!

I recommend “The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty“… it’s full of great new tricks, and normally uncomfortable phrases that will add a little heat to your affair.

As always, I also recommend AshleyMadison.com - sign up is free, and you can find married people like you in your area looking to have a little fun!

Even with high-profile affairs - like Senator John Edwards, Detroit’s debunked mayor, Kwame Kilpatrick and basketball star Kobe Bryant – people make the same mistakes over and over again.

That’s why so many “catch a cheating spouse” books and spying products work.  Time after time, people are caught because they make the same mistakes that hundreds before them have made.

Here are the top 5:

1 – Texting or calling your affair partner from your cell phone.

Yes – it is so easy to communicate this way. But absolutely every cell phone communication is tracked and reported.

Find a different way to communicate with your partner. Otherwise, plan on explaining the calls on your cell phone bill next month.

2 – Leaving a trail of email messages leading to your affair.

An email address is like an ID. Your address is your address. Messages that come from that address are from you – messages that come to it are for you.

Plus, email messages are stored repeatedly. Think you’ve deleted them? Check your “deleted” folder. What about your partner? Did he or she delete what you sent?

So, if you and your partner are sending each other emails, you can be sure that there is a trail leading right to your affair, all someone has to do is look.

Consider using a free web-based email account that you both log into and leave un-sent messages. Stay away from using each other’s names and still delete the messages after they’ve been read.

3 – Buying dinners, gifts and travel with your credit or debit card.

What will your spouse see the next time they check the credit card statement? (Remember – most can be checked online in REAL time!)

Does your statement read like a timeline of your affair?

Credit and debit cards are extremely convenient, but extremely dangerous in an affair. Use cash whenever you can. Also, go to your bank and request a Visa or Mastercard “gift” card. You can fund these with cash and use them like you would a credit card… without a paper trail.

4 – Taking a significantly higher risk than your partner.

Affairs are risky.

What are you putting at risk by sleeping with someone else? What are they putting at risk?

For example, if you’re married, but your partner isn’t – your risks are higher. You’ll go to greater lengths to hide the affair and keep it hidden, because you have more to lose.

Will your single partner? What happens when he or she doesn’t want to be single anymore?

The same goes for affairs at work. Are you sleeping with an equal, or someone that would have something to gain, or not as much to lose if your affair was exposed?

5 – Getting too comfortable.

The term “if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it” does NOT apply to affairs.

You should feel confident that you’ve taken every step to hide your affair. However, you shouldn’t feel too confident that what worked yesterday will continue working tomorrow.

Regularly change your modes of communication, your meeting places, meeting times and the excuses that you give to your spouse.

When they are all spelled out like this it seems simple. Don’t do these 5 things and you won’t get caught. Watch for the next news story on an affair or in gossip with your friends. Which one of these mistakes did the person make?

It could be because it’s forbidden; maybe it’s the nervous anticipation of being caught; maybe it’s the freedom to say and do things that you wouldn’t normally do with your spouse.

For you, any one of these things could make affair sex wonderful.

For me, the combination of all three makes it the most amazing physical experience I’ve ever had.

Even when it’s not high quality sex – I’d take affair sex over sex with my husband any day.

My last beau was absolutely horrible when it came to the actual act of sexual intercourse. I mean, he was really, really bad.

He was small, kind of limp and he always went about it delicately.

Even so, when we were together, there were instant fireworks. I was always revved up before I even saw him, and nearly exploded the second we touched.

He took his time kissing me and holding me. He would slowly take off my clothes, massage my back and neck and run his hands up and down every inch of my body. He talked… actually he talked a LOT which was a huge turn on for me. And he always concentrated on me and my needs.

Since he was so eager to please, I didn’t hesitate to boss him around a little bit and I never felt a single twinge of guilt about just lying back and enjoying all of the physical attention he was paying to me.

So, by the time we got around to the actual intercourse, I was usually already satisfied. I actually had fun pretending to enjoy it knowing full well that the louder I moaned and the bigger the smile on my face, the more (and the faster) he’d enjoy it.

Even though it wasn’t great sex, it was some of the best sex I’ve ever had!

Of course, he was the beau that I found on SugarDaddie.com… so the fact that I always met him in a giant penthouse suite and was greeted with a bottle of champaign may have helped compensate for the bad sex!

There is nothing more devastating to an affair than the cell phone.

If you do only one thing to try to hide your affair, make it this: DON’T USE YOUR CELL PHONE to communicate with your beau.

I know it’s easy to just pick up the phone and call to make arrangements. Maybe you send a quick text message to let him know that you’re waiting. Or, you have him call your cell so that you don’t risk your co-workers, kids or husband answering the phone when he calls.

But know this – each and every time you call his cell, or he calls yours it creates evidence that can be used against you.

Your cell phone bill shows up in your mailbox every month AND in most cases, it can be accessed online. Your husband can easily get a copy of your phone bill to start tracking your every movement.

He can see when you make your regular calls to friends and family – you probably have a few that you call once a week or every day.

He can also see:

• The exact dates and times that you received texts from your beau’s number. Were those the days that you told him you needed to “run to your sister’s house” for a few hours?
• When you don’t make calls for a long period of time. Where were you during that time?
• Where your roaming calls came from. You said you were at a conference in New York, why are there calls on your bill originating from Chicago that weekend?

Not only that – but, what do you think his wife will do when she sees YOUR number showing up on her husband’s bill each month?

So, use other methods of communicating with your beau that won’t create a hard evidence trail that practically tells the story of your affair. Some alternatives are:

• Free, web-based email (don’t use your real names!)
• Office phones
• In person only! Set regular meeting times and do your communicating in person.

So - who is having affairs? It’s not just politicians, pro athletes and Hollywood stars. Check out the stats and figures in this article by Brandon Grittini.

The Rising Number of Marital Affairs
By Brandon Grittini

Although many people feel alone when they discover their spouse has had an affair, they are not alone in terms of the shear numbers of affairs that are going on.

Below are some statistics that will show how common marital affairs are becoming.

Social Class

Adultery does not know how to distinguish between social classes. It does not care who you are, what your income is, where you live, where you work or any other factor.

Around 60% of adulterers are middle class wage earners, and of those, 40% are women. The most common age bracket of people having affairs are between 25 and 39, which also coincides with the highest demographic of divorcees.

Common Traits of an Affair

Some things that are common are that among cheating spouses, most only knew their spouse for 2 years or less prior to marriage, and they have been married for less than 3 years. This is not to say that it is uncommon to find couples who have been married for more than 25 years to have one spouse having an affair.

Gender Disparity

For some reason, we always assume that men are the cheaters. While the statistics do lean that way, they are much closer than you may think. In fact, 22% of men and 14% of women admit to having an affair. Women are closing the gap on cheating spouses.

Who Knew?

Keep an open eye to your spouse’s activity. That is not to say you should focus on your spouses every move or assume that h/she is having an affair, but pay attention to their activities and behaviors.

Your spouse, if they are having an affair, will leave behind many clues they are unaware of. If you can pick up on them, you may be able to catch your spouse cheating!

The importance of paying attention is in the statistics. Of married women, 70% never knew that their husband was cheating. Of married men, 54% never knew their wife was having an affair.

Length of an Affair

Affairs affect 1 in every 3 couples. That’s 33%! But how long does an affair last?

* 10% of affairs last 1 day
* 10% last more than 1 day, but less than 1 month
* 50% last more than 1 month, but less than 1 year
* 40% last more than 2 years!

What is most interesting is that the divorce rate for those who marry their lover is 75%! This is because affairs lack the necessary emotion to sustain anything long term. They ignore faults between the two parties which gives off a false feeling of love.

Work Place Affairs

Some studies suggest that 2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers. While a thought doesn’t always lead to an affair, 75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with someone they work with.

There are endless statistics to talk about, but these are some of the important ones. Now that you’ve read them, do you think your spouse is cheating on you?

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