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Like all good things - some affairs have to come to an end. This article by Danielle L. Taylor shows you how to end the affair without too much collateral damage.

How to Break Up an Extramarital Affair
By Danielle L. Taylor

If you’re in an extramarital affair and you want to get out - it can be one of the most difficult things you ever do. It’s definitely much more difficult than getting out of a relationship that is ‘above board’ because there are more risks and more people who could get hurt. If you’re participating in an extramarital affair and have realized that you no longer want to be, read on. This article will provide important tips on how to break up an extramarital affair.

Be Honest

It’s very important that you tell the individual you’re involved with the truth. If you’re having second thoughts because you feel like you’re doing wrong, let them know. If you simply don’t have any feelings for the person, you can tell them that as well. When you’re honest, your lover can see that you mean business and hopefully won’t try as hard to convince you otherwise. You will feel good about the situation as well if you’re able to tell the truth. Extramarital affairs are not good for anyone involved and getting them over with as soon as possible is the best course of action a person can take.

Do It in Public

Unfortunately, extramarital affairs are usually very fiery. In fact, this is one of the things that attract people to them in the first place. Similar to a first love, they burn hot and the feelings can be very intense. You do not want your lover to do anything in the heat of passion that he or she would regret later. For this reason, it’s best to meet in a public place to let him or her know. The threat of the crowd gives you the chance to say what you have to say and leave safely. Once you’re gone, your lover will have the chance to think about what you’ve said and allow himself or herself to calm down.

Although breaking up an extramarital affair can be extremely difficult to do, it can be done.  It’s the first step to getting your life back on track. It will feel very empowering to no longer have the affair weighing on your conscience and to no longer have to sneak around and be fearful of getting caught. Remember to tell the truth and in the kindest way possible. This way, it will be difficult for your lover to be bitter toward you. Also, ending it in a public place is safer and more secure. When you follow the tips in this article, you can end your extramarital affair and get your life back on track.

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My beau and I are both frequent business travelers. So, much of our time together is spent in hotel rooms across the country. (Lucky us, huh?!)

I never worry that my husband or his wife will call our hotel or our room and catch us – because, I always check into the hotel under a different name.

How?

Well, after years of coordinating travel for my boss and others at our company, I’ve figured out that it’s pretty easy to check into a hotel using a different name.

When I arrive at the hotel, I tell the person behind the desk that I am there to check in my boss and get his room setup. I hand over my credit card and tell them to put the room in the name of… whatever name I come up with that day.

I have yet to have anyone tell me that I can’t do it. AND – I’ve tested it. After I check in under a fake name, I call the front desk from my cell phone and ask to speak to Sabrina White. They always tell me that they don’t have a guest under that name.

Here are some tips for those of you that are going to try this:

1 – Don’t pick an obvious, guessable name. This would include your mother’s name, your child’s name or your “porn name” (you know, your middle name and the street you grew up on, or your dog’s name and the street you live on now…)

2 – Don’t leave the second key for your beau at the front desk. Leave it with the bellman if you have to leave it. And, don’t leave it under his real name.

3 – Be ready for your spouse to say that he called the hotel to talk to you and they said that you weren’t registered. Have an excuse ready to go. I’ve told my husband that all of the rooms are registered under the company’s name and that it’s this huge, aggravating billing mess that I’m going to have to deal with when I get home… the second I start complaining, he usually looses interest!

This also works for encounters close to home. Neither of you have to worry about your spouse showing up and finding that you’ve checked into a hotel around the block!

I love Web 2.0 applications. Twitter is my absolute favorite. It has made it so much easier to communicate with my beau without anyone noticing – not even my Twitter followers.

Here’s how I do it…

My beau and I each have our own topics that we tweet about when we want to meet up.

Mine is coffee. His is a bad cell phone connection.

The beauty of it is that neither of them have anything to do with one another. PLUS they both fit into the type of sentiments that people type into Twitter.

Here is how we do it:

If I want to meet up, I tweet something like: “Can’t wake up – NEED coffee”

If he is able to meet me, he’ll tweet something like: “Found another dead zone on my cell network – can you hear me now?”

If he can’t meet me, he just won’t tweet.

We do the same type of thing when he wants to meet up. He tweets about a bad cell connection and if I can meet up, I tweet about coffee.

Then, we both head off to our favorite meeting place.

Looking at this NOBODY could possibly know that we’re talking to each other, let alone that we’re having an affair.

Here is why it works:

• It doesn’t appear that we’re interacting with each other
• We don’t call each other – so NO phone records link us
• We don’t email each other – so neither one of us has to worry about deleting emails
• Our computers show NO traces of our affair

I like to send my beau sweet, sexy emails. I really like to get them from him… especially the messages that tell me what he’s going to do to me the next time we’re alone together!

Believe it or not, we exchange emails all day long about our plans, our thoughts and our passion – without leaving a trace.

How?

We use the “Drafts” folder in a free web based mail program.

Here’s how it works:

We never *send* messages to each other. I login to the account, type my message and “save it to drafts”.

He logs in to the same account, clicks on the “drafts” folder and reads my message. Then, he types his own message and saves it to the drafts folder where I can find it when I login later.

This works so well because:

• We’re not actually sending the messages so they never end up in our personal or business email accounts.
• Since there is no email address to identify who the messages are to or from, it would be difficult to point them back to either of us.
• We’re using the “Drafts” folder instead of the inbox and outbox that the “catch a cheating spouse” guides say to look in.

Some tips for those of you that are going to try this:

1. Never type in his or your email address
2. Remember to logout
3. Say “no” when your browser asks if you’d like to save your login information
4. Choose a very non-descript username like “accounting-backfill” or “companynews”. If it looks like a boring work-related account your spouse will be less likely to pry into it.

You can use just about any free web-based mail program like Yahoo, Gmail or Hotmail.  Once you get started, beware – you’ll become addicted fast.

In fact, I’ve got to go check my account now to see if he’s left me another juicy message!

Okay, normally I would think this kind of thing is really corny. But, this article by Janet Angel actually has a lot of great ideas.

Maybe next time I’m in the market for a new beau, I’ll do this! (I’ll probably still end up at Ashley Madison looking, but this could DEFINITELY tide me over for a few months!)

Have An Affair - How to Have an Affair with Your Spouse!
By Janet Angel

Do you know that most affairs end with the married partner going back to their spouse? That’s right. Although some married men and women spend months and even many years cheating on their spouses with another  partner, it is quite rare for the married partner to leave his/her marriage. The risk of having an affair and being found-out by your spouse today is great. With all of the technology, spy cameras, GPS systems, car tracking systems, tollway scanners and cell phone records, it is becoming more and more risky, and quite literally, a stupid choice. Why waste the passion on a lover who you will eventually leave? Why risk the pain and embarrassment you and your family would suffer?
Instead, why not begin to remember why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place.

Most people have a difficult time breaking free of the marital traps of a stagnant sex life. Why? Because for one reason or another they have gotten into a groove of being parents, taking care of their elderly parents, working, taking care of household chores, and carrying on with responsibilities,stresses, and the worries that often accompany the good American life.  How can you change that? Here are some great ways to put the fire back into your relationship. To start with HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR SPOUSE!

Be creative for starters. What would it take for you to have an affair with someone outside of your marriage? It would take imagination, sensitivity, being open to new ways of thinking, sharing, and caring, and being daring.  You would certainly take a closer look at your personal image, the way you dress, wear your hair, and personal hygiene. You would become a better listener, and you would want to broaden your comfort zone. You might take some dancing lessons, decide to take up a new hobby, set up travel plans, and explore new cuisine.

When the pizzaz seems to have left your marriage, it is time to consider rekindling that flame. Don’t let your children be an excuse. And for that matter, don’t let your parents who now live with you, be a hinderence either. You can have a sexy relationship and fulfilling sex life with your spouse if you really try.

ROMANCE means many different things to many different people. What does it mean to you? What does it mean to your spouse? What makes you sexy? (the way you talk, the way you smell, what you read, how you dress, your body parts, where you dine…) What makes your spouse sexy? Think about the following ideas and begin to work your way through the list over a couple of months:

* Call your spouse and say something sexy, or in some cases if it works for you, something “dirty.”
Ask he/she to meet you away from home if possible. Go to a place away from your neighborhood where no one will know you.  Drive in two separate cars if possible. Meet in the parking lot as though you were lovers. Kiss in one or the other’s car, or start in the parking lot. Move the passion into the restaurant. Hold hands, touch each other’s legs under the table. Nothing too crazy. Change your names and ACT as if you are not husband and wife. Watch the stares that you get.

* Surprise your spouse with a short day trip to a nearby lake and have a picnic.  Plan ahead. Bring wine, cheese, slices of fruit, crackers, cold chicken (whatever you like on a picnic), a blanket, radio/CD player, or bring a guitar if you are so inclined. Dance together, hug, kiss on your blanket. Keep it safe. Be sure that you are in a safe place because people do get mugged in remote places. Perhaps get a row boat, or go on a pontoon boat ride, do a little fishing, a bike ride. Do something different.

*Stop at a mall and choose a fragrance that you would love to smell on your spouse. If you can’t afford to buy it, ask for a sample. Wrap it nicely.  Buy a piece of lingerie or sexy male underwear for your partner.

*Have phone sex. You could be in the same house, in different rooms, or one could be away from home. You will start to look forward to this sexy talk.

*Make a candlelight dinner for two.

*Drive to a new indoor mall and window shop, stop for coffee, and choose a new CD together. Play it in the car on the way home.

*Cook together. Go to the grocery store and choose sexy foods. Sexy foods may be foods that increase sex drive like certain kinds of shell fish, or it can be foods that look at taste sexy to you.
Include a nice bottle of wine.

*Have sex somewhere different in your home. Like on your couch, the living room floor on a blanket, get creative. (Always close the blinds and be certain that no one will walk in on you)

*Take a shower together, or a bath together.

*Try working out together. It is amazing how many people meet sexy people at their health clubs.

*Give each other a massage with a new erotic lotion/oil that you love.

*Watch a sexy movie together.

*Go for a walk together and hold hands. Take time to notice the trees, the night sky, and the passersby.

*Take an afternoon off of work and go to the Art Institute, or some museum together. Seeing new things can stimulate your imagination.

*Go dancing

*Plan a long awaited trip. Talk with each other once a week about where you want to go, what you would like to do, and what it will be like to be far away from home and all of the day to day grind.

*At home, put the kids to sleep, then see how quietly you can have sex. Pretend that you are teenagers and your parents might walk in.

*Start making love to your spouse with words. Remember what you love about he/she. His or her eyes, skin, physique, brilliance, humor, whatever turns you on. Leave a note on the bathroom mirror before you go to work. Those sticky notes work great. Put a note in his/her drawer, on the coffee pot, his/her briefcase, inside a book, wherever he/she will read it when you are not there.

*Write a sexy love letter and mail it to your spouse. There is something special about receiving a handwritten love letter in the mail.

*Spend time learning some new activity that the two of you can share for years to come. Try something like golf, swimming, biking, hiking, bowling, play cards, learn photography, take up
bird watching, learn about gardening or yoga. Whatever you choose make it something that both people will enjoy.

*Ask your spouse out on a date and have it planned. Pick your date up and again pretend you hardly know each other.

*Storms create alot of energy, sights and sounds. Some people quite enjoy making love during a rain storm. Just watching a storm can be sexy. The power behind the lightening and thunder is stimulating to some couples.

*Send your spouse flowers or candy at work or home with a love note attached.

*Do something you normally wouldn’t such as go to a sporting event. Sometimes being in a screaming
happy crowd reminds you of the enthusiasm of youth. Once your hormone levels are stimulated by all that estrogen or testosterone around you, you will start to think younger again. Watch how young people act with one another. On the other hand, if you are younger, watch how tender older people act toward one another.

*During intimate times make things new by beginning the event long before it actually happens. Then
do things differently. Try new positions, be creative; but always make sure that your partner approves of whatever it is you suggestion either verbally or by your actions.

*Make a point of touching certain body parts that stimulate your partner. Remember that touching can be erotic or irritating. Learn to read your spouse. If she/he doesn’t want to be touched after a shower, don’t do it. If you come up behind your spouse while she/he is combing their hair and gently kiss an ear and then fondle a meaningful body part, watch the response. You can vary the tine spent in love making. Once in a while it is good to have sex and not make love, and at other times making love by taking your time and stretching out the sequence works well.

Having an affair with your spouse can be wonderful, exhilarating, fun, and vastly rewarding. Having an affair with the person you truly love is something that can last a lifetime, create tighter bonds between you, and your entire family. When parents are happy, children can feel it, they can sense it.

Having an affair with your spouse is not just about improving your sex lives, it is about improving your lives in every way.  So take it one step further and do more things together, continue to have your own interests, look forward to sharing all aspects of marriage. Honor each other by respecting each other’s wishes, likes and dislikes, and supporting each other as you move through all of the phases of life and marriage.

Certainly there is so much more involved in creating the perfect love affair. This is a start. Use your imagination, your honesty, and your love to make your marriage the relationship of your dreams. You can have a sexy, long-lasting love affair with your spouse. Your spouse can be the lady or man of your dreams if you make it happen together.

True love is worth the effort…

Janet Angel is a sought-after wellness expert with advanced degrees in nutritional biochemistry and psychology. She believes that everyone needs to educate themselves on the wellness opportunities available around the world. Dr. Angel has counseled many prominent citizens across the United States and has participated in several international research programs surrounding health. She has been a guest on many radio programs, is a public speaker, author and seminar leader. Dr. Angel believes that the body has the innate abillity to heal itself in most circumstances, given the right environment, the right elements and the opportunity. For further information on her drive to help others reach their fullest potential, please go to http://www.Totallywell.com For financial wellness ideas go to http://www.LinkToCashNow.com

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