The Top 5 Mistakes That Can Ruin Your Affair

Even with high-profile affairs - like Senator John Edwards, Detroit’s debunked mayor, Kwame Kilpatrick and basketball star Kobe Bryant – people make the same mistakes over and over again.

That’s why so many “catch a cheating spouse” books and spying products work.  Time after time, people are caught because they make the same mistakes that hundreds before them have made.

Here are the top 5:

1 – Texting or calling your affair partner from your cell phone.

Yes – it is so easy to communicate this way. But absolutely every cell phone communication is tracked and reported.

Find a different way to communicate with your partner. Otherwise, plan on explaining the calls on your cell phone bill next month.

2 – Leaving a trail of email messages leading to your affair.

An email address is like an ID. Your address is your address. Messages that come from that address are from you – messages that come to it are for you.

Plus, email messages are stored repeatedly. Think you’ve deleted them? Check your “deleted” folder. What about your partner? Did he or she delete what you sent?

So, if you and your partner are sending each other emails, you can be sure that there is a trail leading right to your affair, all someone has to do is look.

Consider using a free web-based email account that you both log into and leave un-sent messages. Stay away from using each other’s names and still delete the messages after they’ve been read.

3 – Buying dinners, gifts and travel with your credit or debit card.

What will your spouse see the next time they check the credit card statement? (Remember – most can be checked online in REAL time!)

Does your statement read like a timeline of your affair?

Credit and debit cards are extremely convenient, but extremely dangerous in an affair. Use cash whenever you can. Also, go to your bank and request a Visa or Mastercard “gift” card. You can fund these with cash and use them like you would a credit card… without a paper trail.

4 – Taking a significantly higher risk than your partner.

Affairs are risky.

What are you putting at risk by sleeping with someone else? What are they putting at risk?

For example, if you’re married, but your partner isn’t – your risks are higher. You’ll go to greater lengths to hide the affair and keep it hidden, because you have more to lose.

Will your single partner? What happens when he or she doesn’t want to be single anymore?

The same goes for affairs at work. Are you sleeping with an equal, or someone that would have something to gain, or not as much to lose if your affair was exposed?

5 – Getting too comfortable.

The term “if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it” does NOT apply to affairs.

You should feel confident that you’ve taken every step to hide your affair. However, you shouldn’t feel too confident that what worked yesterday will continue working tomorrow.

Regularly change your modes of communication, your meeting places, meeting times and the excuses that you give to your spouse.

When they are all spelled out like this it seems simple. Don’t do these 5 things and you won’t get caught. Watch for the next news story on an affair or in gossip with your friends. Which one of these mistakes did the person make?